No matter the circumstances, the justification or lack thereof, divorce is not for a moment, but for a lifetime. When dealing with friends and loved ones who have been through the traumatic experience of a divorce, it’s important to remember that no matter how far along the healing has come, somewhere deep inside a vestige of the pain always remains. I was reminded of this when a dear friend was asked if she had seen the engagement announcement in the local paper of her former husband and ‘the other woman.’ While her response was graceful, the look of pain on her face was palpable. She has shown great healing and peace recently, but this reminder of loss, disappointment, betrayal or whatever you want to call it, came spurting to the surface. My takeaway is to remember to tread gently. The pain remains. It’s a reminder that divorce, even in the most justifiable circumstances, leaves deep scars. Best we not pick at them.