Someone once commented that the eye is a portal into the soul. It has always made me wonder what is going on inside someone when their stare is pure, sharp daggers. I also love the many terms for this phenomenon: the look, slow burn, dirty look, deadly gaze, glare, gloom, glower, grimace, knit brows, double whammy, pout, sulk… and my all-time favorite term for those of us who sometimes hang out in church circles: the evil eye!
A recently divorced friend shared with me that she still feels like she gets “the look” often from people in, of all places, her home church.
She said the withering glances, dirty looks and other non-verbal communication of disapproval began when it became public that her marriage was undergoing some difficulties. Now, a couple of years later, the highly obvious but non-verbal disapproval is still coming through. I would like to suggest that she smack those lookers upside the head with a Brennan Manning book or two!
What exactly is going on with this behavior. Please help me understand? Who are we to pass judgment. Who are we to consider someone in pain without offering a kind word, extending a hand of comfort or look for an opportunity to heal or comfort?
Folks, our churches are filled with sinners: namely us! Our churches are filled with people who are wounded in one way or another: again, us. Our churches are filled with imperfect people: still us. Wouldn’t it be nice if church was also filled with people who want to be the hands, feet and heart of Jesus!
Wouldn’t it be nice if those people were US? We’re curious, what’s behind those stares. Any ideas?