Proceed with caution! We firmly believe that most people in the throes of divorce already have had many prayerful sessions reviewing what the Word of God has to say about divorce. Sometimes those of us in support roles need to resist the temptation to spout scripture when what is really needed is full-on modeling of the love of Jesus.
Remember that the power of the Word of God rests not in citing a verse (out of context) but in an individual absorbing into their soul the Word in the context of their life and the context of the larger Bible story.
Scripture is NOT a tool for argument or abuse. Our point is: know your Scripture, let God do His work in you, then when you are confronted with a person in serious need of comfort and succor, you can resist the temptation to smack them upside the head with a terse Bible verse or two. Approach your friend first with an open heart and kindness. Listen very carefully. Absorb their pain and concern. Love them the way Jesus wants them to be loved. We truly believe that at our worst times of life the thing we need to know the most is not the verses of reproof, but the truth of God’s unending and unconditional love for us as we are, where we are. That is the knowledge that opens all of us up to God’s work in our lives.
Whenever I need a good verse to remind me to lead with love in tough situations, this one always comes through:
He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’ [Deut. 6:5] ; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ [Lev. 19:18] ” Luke 10:27 NIV
Jesus also showed us this love lived out in many ways. One of them was washing His disciples’ feet. That example resonates with me as one of my dearest friends so gently reminded me once: “try removing the stick so you can bend over and wash their feet.”