What On Earth Do I Have to Be Thankful For?

By on November 27, 2011

Sometimes when one is in the middle of a marriage breakup it can be a bit difficult to find things to be thankful for. As dreams, plans and the future you’ve hoped for are disappearing, a common feeling is hopelessness.  Holidays, such as Thanksgiving often serve as reminders of better times and can amplify the Read More...


The Withering Stare

By on November 21, 2011

Someone once commented that the eye is a portal into the soul.  It has always made me wonder what is going on inside someone when their stare is pure, sharp daggers.  I also love the many terms for this phenomenon: the look, slow burn, dirty look, deadly gaze, glare, gloom, glower, grimace, knit brows, double whammy, pout, sulk… and Read More...


Act Justly, Love Mercy
And Walk Humbly With Your God. (From Micah 6:8)

By on July 21, 2013

Act justly!   Wow, justice is a mysterious and difficult concept. How often is justice harder to seek than it should be?  Is that why God has reserved justice as his own purview when He speaks of revenge in Romans 12:9: “Revenge is Mine!” How is justice linked to forgiveness? IS justice linked to forgiveness? And Read More...


We All Fall Down

By on February 29, 2012

Sometimes I seriously question whether or not most churches, as institutions, actually believe what they preach: forgiveness, grace, God as redeemer, all have sinned and fallen short. You know, that sort of thing.   Very often they get the words literally correct on Sunday, but are their brains engaged and their hearts in line with Read More...


Are We Called To “Condemn” or “Love” Our Neighbors?

By on February 20, 2012

This missive will be a bit of a rant (about love). As we try to stick with the topics of divorce and the church on the New Lepers blog, feel free to use that paradigm as your filter as you take in this post. I hope you will find some application for dealing with divorce Read More...


Is Divorce Contagious?

By on August 27, 2011

In the Bible, Lepers are thought to be highly contagious. People go to great lengths to avoid contact. Rules were written on top of rules in order to keep the Leper at bay. Even the Lepers themselves were required to shout “unclean” when they came near the normal population. This image struck me powerfully when, Read More...


Divorce: The Pain Remains

By on August 19, 2011

No matter the circumstances, the justification or lack thereof, divorce is not for a moment, but for a lifetime.  When dealing with friends and loved ones who have been through the traumatic experience of a divorce, it’s important to remember that no matter how far along the healing has come, somewhere deep inside a vestige Read More...


Faced with Divorce, I Just Don’t Know the Right Words

By on July 18, 2011

A few weeks ago I attended a memorial service for my first Father in Law. He was a man of great influence over many, having raised a family of ten children plus a nephew. I observed how awkward it seemed for some people to approach the family. It reminded me of times when I had Read More...



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